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So, you’re going to officiate a wedding?! These DIY ideas for a wedding script for an officiant are so helpful that you will be able to craft the most unique and thoughtful ceremony in no time.

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There are two simple steps to this process:

  1. Get lots of details about the couple and the ceremony; and
  2. Use these details to fill in the outline provided below.

This post gives you all the bookish lifestyle advice you need!

My sister-in-law created this process and used it herself to officiate her brother’s wedding. I was so impressed by the superb job she did, and just KNEW it could help so many other newly minted officiants, that I asked her if I could post it on my blog here. She told me it’s one of the things of which she is most proud and generously agreed!

I have no doubt that these DIY wedding script ideas for an officiant will set you well on your way to writing the most memorable ceremony.

DIY Ideas for a Wedding Script for an Officiant (2 Steps)

Step 1: Get Lots of Details About the Couple and the Ceremony

About The Couple

  1. How did you meet?
  2. How did you get engaged?
  3. What vacation was your favorite?
  4. What values and beliefs do you share?
  5. When did you know you were ready to marry your fiance and why?
  6. What do you like most about your fiance?
  7. What drives you crazy about your fiance?
  8. What does marriage mean to you?
  9. What are your hopes and dreams for the future?
  10. Who will be the guests?
  11. What are examples of marriages that have been meaningful to you?
  12. Tell me about the pivotal moments that define your relationship.
  13. What does it mean to you to have your family and friends present at your wedding?
  14. When did you first say “I love you”?
  15. What are your nicknames for each other?
  16. What are the weird things you do that your fiance likes about you?
  17. What are the weird things about your fiance that you like?
  18. What do you like to do together?
  19. How would you describe your fiance to people that have never met your fiance?
  20. What are you most looking forward to about your life together?
  21. What is the most romantic thing your fiance has done for you?
  22. What are the little things that your fiance does on a daily basis that you love and appreciate?
  23. What is the most embarrassing thing your fiance has seen you do?
  24. How would you describe your fiance?
  25. Are there any games, books, shows, or movies that are particularly special to both of you? 

About the Ceremony

  1. Is there anything you specifically want me to include or exclude?
  2. How do you want to remember your ceremony?
  3. What do you want your friends and family to remember?
  4. What have you seen at other weddings that you liked or did not like?
  5. Do you want anyone to do a special reading?
  6. Do you want traditional vows or do you want to write your own?
  7. Are there any rituals that you want to incorporate into your ceremony (prayers, sand ceremony, remembrance of deceased loved ones)?
  8. If applicable: Do you want me to ask your escort “who gives this woman/man to be married?”

Step 2: Use the Details You Obtained to Fill in This Outline

  • Pre-Ceremony Opening
    • Optional: Ask everyone to turn off their phones
    • Optional: Remind guests to stand up when the bride/groom walks down the aisle
  • Processional
  • Intro
    • Please be seated.
    • Optional: “Who gives this woman/man to be married?” (or something similar)
    • Welcome the couple and guests to their wedding and introduce yourself
    • Thank family and friends who are joining: i.e., “Each of you has brought something special to the couple’s life, and they appreciate your continued love and support as they become married.”
  • Optional: Introduce readers and have them recite any readings
  • Marriage Address Featuring the Couple’s Love Story
    • Who they are
    • How they met
    • The adventures that brought them to this day
    • How they describe each other
    • How they are similar and different
    • How they made it through difficult times
    • Their engagement
    • Their love for each other
    • Their hopes, and dreams for the future
  • Offer marital advice and wish the couple well
  • Vows
    • Optional Intro to Vows: Traditionally, marriage is marked by the exchange of rings. These rings are an unbroken circle of love, signifying your union and your ongoing commitment to each other. Love freely given has no beginning and no end. Love freely given has no giver and no receiver, for each of you is the giver and each of you is the receiver. Now, please take each other’s hands. 
    • Recite vows chosen /written by the couple (Be sure to follow any local laws.)
  • Declaration of Marriage (Again, be sure to follow any local laws.)
  • Recessional


I hope these DIY Ideas for a wedding script for an officiant from my family to yours help you create a thoughtful wedding ceremony. Remember to get lots of great details about the couple then filter them into the suggested outline. Good luck!!

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